For quite a while I have been curious about what it is like to be the wife/girlfriend of an Allen Americans player living a long way from home in North Texas. Pro hockey is a vagabond existence for most hockey players and I was sure it presented some challenges for their significant others.
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| Wendy McMillin played youth, high school & college hockey |
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| Wendy posing with the Stanley Cup |
Another big decision came as Wendy started high school (10th grade) because she could not play varsity hockey in Roseau without attending school in Roseau. She and her family made the decision that she would move in with a host family (the goalie on her team's family) in Roseau as it would allow her to continue to play hockey and Roseau also had a great education system.
I want to take a moment to talk a little about hockey in northern Minnesota and Roseau in particular. High school hockey in Minnesota is like football in Texas or basketball in Indiana. I found the following on the "Vintage Minnesota Hockey" web site:
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To summarize Roseau hockey in one word: TRADITION
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In the hockey-frenzied town of Roseau, Minn., 10 miles
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south of the Canadian border, septuagenarian
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grandmas can give you a 10-minute lecture on the
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technique of a face-off in the defensive end.
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Roseau thrives on its image as the team of the north. How
far north? So far that the huge, ice-sheathed Lake of the Woods, 20 miles away,
is a certified remnant of the last glacial age of North America. It is what's
left of the prehistoric Lake Agassiz that was created by the receding ice flow.
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Sometime a little more recently in Roseau – something
like 100 years ago – they discovered hockey. And the community of predominately
second- and third-generation Scandinavians created its own history. Thirty one
times it has advanced to the Minnesota state tournament, which among most
hockey clans is regarded as the blue-ribbon event in American high school
hockey. It has given to world hockey the brothers Neal, Aaron, and Paul Broten,
all of whom played in the National Hockey League among nearly a dozen Roseau
graduates who made it to the pros. Neal Broten starred on the "Miracle on
Ice" American team that won the 1980 Olympics.
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| Brian and Wendy circa 2006 |
Roseau
had its first indoor ice in the early 1940's and has three sheets of
indoor ice all for a population of 2600. Kids always have ice time and
it is free. One of the three rinks in town is called the north rink and
it is primarily used as a place to skate & play hockey for fun.
Wendy spent a lot of time skating at the north rink and as Wendy put it,
Brian lived at the north rink. He ate there, did his homework there,
& of course skated there constantly. She doesn't remember when they
actually met but they became friends while skating at the north rink.
They had plans to go to prom but hockey got in the way as Brian was
trying out for a statewide select hockey team and the tryouts were on
prom weekend. Soon after that they began dating.
Wendy thrived in Roseau both athletically and scholastically. She
made the varsity team in hockey, volleyball and softball her first year.
By the time she completed high school she had been selected all
conference in hockey and softball, she was captain of the hockey team as
a Junior and Senior, was selected as an academic all American by the
National Fastpitch Coaches Association, won the Hobey Baker Character
Award which is presented to a player on each high school hockey team in
Minnesota that most exemplifies the values and traits of Hobey Baker
himself. These values include character, commitment, teamwork,
persistence, selflessness, academic excellence, and sportsmanship. She
also won the Terrence Fogarty Hockey scholarship which is sponsored by
Mr. Fogarty who is a world famous sports artist from Minnesota. It
addition to the scholarship she received a limited edition print of one
of his hockey paintings. She is a member of the Roseau High School
Hockey Hall of Fame.
When it came time for college Wendy wanted to attend an Ivy League
school and was looking at Cornell. Her hockey hero as a youngster was
Angela Ruggiero, a four time Olympic hockey player who won a gold medal
in the 1998 Nagano Japan Olympics when she was still a senior in high
school. Angela played college hockey at Harvard and that influenced
Wendy to aspire to play at an Ivy league school. Cornell's hockey team
was full so Wendy accepted an offer from Bemidji State Univeristy which
is a division one program in the famed Western Collegiate Hockey
Association (WCHA). She received both athletic and academic scholarships
while at Bemidji State. It allowed Wendy to be play close to home as it
was only two hours away. She was a year ahead of Brian in school so he
was still back in Roseau as a senior. Hockey in college was a full time
job with practice, off ice training, tape review, and weekend travel.
She rarely had time off during the season and if she did it was usually
only one day so it was difficult to see her family in Hallock and Brian
in Roseau. On the positive side she got to play the game she loved,
played with and against people from all over the world including many
Olympians.. Her team had players from Canada, Sweden and Germany.
When Brian graduated he accepted a scholarship to Colorado College
which is in Colorado Springs. Wendy and Brian knew it was going to be
difficult on their relationship being so far a part but they are goal
driven and that helped them understand each others situation and
support each other. To make matters worse Colorado College was also in
the WCHA so their respective schools were conference rivals. As a matter
of fact, Brian's first collegiate goal proved to be the game-winner in a
5-3 triumph over Bemidji State the week after Christmas of his freshman
year.
Both Wendy and Brian graduated from college in 2010. Wendy with a
double major in mathematics and economics and a physics minor and Brian
with a degree in Mathematical Economics.
After Brian finished his college season in 2010 he signed with the
Kalamazoo Wings (ECHL). He played in three games for the Wings late in
the 2010 season and then signed a contract to play in Kalamazoo for the
2010-2011 season. So after the summer at home where Wendy managed the
community pool (she had worked there every summer since 10th grade) and
Brian worked for the county, Brian headed to Kalamazoo for training
camp. Wendy stayed in Hallock to help her dad with the fall harvest and
then joined Brian in Kalamazoo. As soon as she arrived in Kalamazoo she
started looking for a job but it took over a month to find one.
This is the part of the story where being the wife/girlfriend of a pro
hockey players starts. In November, 2010, the very day Wendy found a job
in Kalamazoo and only fourteen games into the season Brian was
released. Wendy describes this time as scary and saddening as they
almost felt homeless. They didn't want to drive all the way back to
northern Minnesota as they were hoping to get picked up be another team
and figured that would happen quickly. When nothing happened they ended
up driving to Minneapolis and staying with Brian's family at a hotel
for a few days as his little brother was in town playing in a hockey
tournament. They were hoping to get a call while in Minneapolis but no
call came. So they headed home to Roseau. A day after they got home
Brain got a call from Dwight Mullins. The connection between Mullins and
Brian was through one of his college coaches, Joe Bonnett. Brian, an
avid hunter, was in a deer stand when he got the call from the Mullins.
Wendy's first thought when hearing they were coming to Allen was
cowboy hats and cowboys boots but when she found out Allen was a Dallas
suburb she was excited to get here. For those that are not aware, in the
CHL lodging is provided for the players in the form of a furnished
apartment. If you are single you share an apartment but if you are
married you get your own apartment. Since Wendy and Brian were not
married at the time they had a roommate. Mitch McColm and Scott Campbell
were their roommates at various times.
Wendy remembers being very impressed with the apartment (Fairways of
Wilson Creek), the surrounding area, and the Allen Event Center. She
was able to get a job very quickly and has continued to work at First
National Bank Southwest in Frisco. She has been promoted several times
and is currently working in business and commercial lending. Her current
position is "Business Specialist" and it is a trainee position to be a
Business Banker Commercial Lender which is her long term goal.
Wendy describes her role as a hockey wife as amazing. They are living a
dream making a living at something they love so much. Wendy spends a
lot of time with the other wives/girlfriends and they get along very
well. With so many young children among this years team they do less
going out but they hang out at each others apartments on the weekends.
A typical game day for a home game is very structured for Brian. He is
very precise on when he does everything during the day, timing things
almost to the minute. When Brian heads for the rink in the morning for
the game day skate Wendy takes the opportunity to work out. When Brian
comes home after the team lunch he takes a nap and as Wendy told me, "I
try not to be a bum and take a nap but I usually end up taking a nap
too." After Brian leaves for the rink for the game Wendy gets ready and
likes to arrive so she can watch warm ups. Wendy usually sits in a suite
on the second level of the Allen Event Center with the other
wives/girlfriends but she also likes to sit close to the ice as she like
seeing the game up close so on occasion she will watch the game from
the lower level. Having played hockey most of her life she watches the
game with more intensity than most and she really appreciates what they
have and all that has gone into where Brian is today. As I saw tears
well up in her eyes she said, "I do get emotional about it as it is a
dream for him I know. To get paid to play something you love, to have
all of the opportunities we have, to meet the people we have met, things
like having Eddie Belfour's number in your cell phone, that's
unbelievable so I will do anything for him right now so he can keep it
up."
Game day when the team is on the road is time for Wendy to do things
for herself that she doesn't do when Brian is in town. She normally does
not talk to him unless he texts her first. The wives/girlfriends have a
group on Facebook that helps them coordinate get togethers. They will
get together in someones apartment and watch the game or at least have
the game on. Wendy admits it is tough to pay close attention to the game
but the wives and girlfriends have a great time.
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Wendy typically attends the away games in Ft. Worth and has traveled to
Tulsa as well. The ultimate hockey fan she often goes to the away games
by herself.
When I asked Wendy about what she likes to do when she isn't working
the overachieving athlete in her came out. After not playing hockey
since college she has recently started playing hockey again on a women's
team and will be playing in a tournament in Louisiana next month. She
is training to do a marathon and hopes to compete in the White Rock
marathon this year.
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| Brian and Wendy were married last June |
During the past off season Brain and Wendy were married back home in
Roseau. They spent the summer in Allen because of Wendy's job.
I thought it would be interesting to ask Wendy some of the
questions I usually ask the players when I do a player profile.
Here are her answers:
Hockey Hero: Angela Ruggiero
Favorite Actress: Sandra Bullock
Favorite Type Of Music: I listen to everything
Favorite Group: Nickelback
Something That Has Great Value to You But Little Value To Anyone Else: I
have a hockey puck collection from everywhere I have played or visited.
My mom has helped me put this together.
What Chore Do You Hate Doing: Cleaning the apartment
Something People Would be Surprised to learn About You: I can play
six different instruments (trumpet, trombone, french horn, guitar, pipe
organ with pedals (she played at church for many years) and the piano.
Who Do You Admire As a Leader: The two bosses I have had at work.
They are mentors for me and I have learned a lot from them.
If you Could Live in Another Country For Two Years Where Would You Live: Australia
If You Could Do Something Other Than What You Do Now What Would it Be: Pilot
Who Is The Funniest Wife or Girlfriend: Taylor Ludwig
Favorite Childhood Toy: McDonald's Drive Thru Playset. My sister and I used to play with it constantly.
Favorite TV Show: Sons of Anarchy
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| Surfing in Hawaii last year and yes, Wendy is a better surfer |
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